Acceptance leads to bliss and expectations lead to misery
Human beings needlessly suffer as they do not accept the present moment which is absolutely marvelous leading to avoidable misery. Present moment is very precious but may not be to our liking making us feel flustered and frustrated. We want something else little realizing that what is happening at the moment, though not good as per our perception, is the best being created by the benevolent universe. It would be appropriate to quote Brad of Avon the legendary litterateur, inimitable, indubitable and the master of human psychology William Shakespeare who said d” Nothing is good or bad; only thinking makes it so. “We are naïve to believe that we can change what is happening now which is not amenable to change resulting in frustration, stress, anxiety and misery. We all need to embrace the philosophy of Zen which advises us to be in the moment which is very precious and golden. Unbiased acceptance of the moment makes the moment momentous akin to aroma wafting from the blooming flower in the garden leading to eternal bliss. If we resist the event happening in the moment by not accepting it as it is we create stress, anxiety and frustration.
Acceptance of people, events and happenings creates bliss. Human mind has become a laird of ego which always wants something else other than what is happening now. Now is a perennial thing as every moment is now. Non-acceptance creates turmoil. We have been trained right from our infancy to always seek something other than what is happening in the now. Let ego perish and happiness flourish is my common refrain. Ego is deeply ensconced in our mind always seeking which is not there in the now. Our mind which is predominantly egotist seeks something else other than what is happening now and not accepting what is happening now. All the human beings must read “The Power of Now” written by Ekhart Tolle which is replete with an ocean of wisdom and great recipe for bliss. All the sentient beings are living in the now other than human beings who are tormented by the egotist and pernicious mind. Mind is a miserable monkey always jumping from past to the future and always avoiding the present leading to avoidable misery which is a veritable hell. Acceptance needs utmost humility which each one of us things below their dignity.
Acceptance of things as it requires immense temerity. The benefits of accepting things as they are myriad as it is always for our benefit. When we do not accept there is an internecine war between what is happening and what we want leading to stress, anxiety and frustration. There are billions of things happening at the moment and our acceptance of few of them leads to bliss. Accepting things as they are happening in the now saves humongous energy. An example is that when we are caught in a traffic and we curse crib and complain that exacerbates and precipitates the matter leading to immense misery. Human hubris and ultra ego feel below its dignity to accept the things that are happening inviting untold misery. Even in relationships we are not accepting our counterpart as they are but want them to conform to our expectations. Love is nothing but acceptance of the other person, events and happenings. We need to accept our personality comprising of our complexion, height, family, country, race, religion and gender. If we do not accept the aforesaid things we would perpetually be under stress, anxiety and frustration. We very well know that some of the things we have cannot be changed. We squander our precious energies on relentlessly trying to change the unchangeable. We create turbulence, turmoil and travails just because we do not accept the things as they are. Once we accept the things as they are we can with love and patience we can turn everything into things that are congenial for us. Most of the problems in the world are mainly due to this non acceptance. Non acceptance creates negativity, anger and hatred. Hatred leads to anger, enmity, crime violence and war. Acceptance of another’s opinion leads to amity, peace, bonhomie and camaraderie.
Murli Chari
Pune, Maharashtra, India.
9766329055
13th September 2026
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